you have nothing to apologize for

A lot of people who try to change the way you are or try to give you advice on what to say or how you come off, are people who actually care about you. But know this, them trying to conform you into what they think is the best approach from their political preference is not recommended, I so believe.

You have no idea how many times ive been rebuked left and right back and forth. Just being given unwanted advice that I never asked for. But I now realize it is not I who is in the wrong here, nor do I have anything to apologize for just being me. For the people who take you aside and give you their constructive criticism are actually misunderstood and have misjudged you. Yes they love you, and they care about you, but they are forgetting the most fundamental imperative way to really understand you by taking them out of their own element and into how you see things. That ladies and gentlemen is HOW you get to fully understand people. NOT based on what you think about them from what’s appeared or analyzed. I’ve only met 4 people in my entire life that actually emphasize this as the correct way: Ryan Haley & Pastor Matt Park (IHOPKC) & Jimi Finneyfrock & April Beck.

Fact is, people fail to see the validity of my perception based on their own view as an intellectual. by all means correct me, but not before youve had the chance to digest what I have to say. Your refutal should not be a reaction.

i did not fail, i hushed myself and listened slowly to you, and saw it through your eyes, but however i dont think i have anyting to apologize for or change my post because im not the one in the wrong here and its not arrogant or stubborn, i just am standing firm in believing in what i said was more than okay.

And Im not the only out there who could draw the conclusion I did on the basis of the context.
Vice Versa.

But since when was this a popularity contest? I’m not here to conform into what the majority thinks is the “proper” way. This has nothing to do with rebellious or not wanting to submit to authority, this is just me being the way I’m called to be, to truly be myself and speak my mind. And this also has nothing to do with arrogance or stubbornness or close-minded, I am fully cognizant of how I can come off, but I realize now it is not that I need to change about myself, but it is people who need to stop looking at it in their perception and start looking at it in mine. This is where true understanding can begin.

before you make a judgement, get to know them first. the people who actually chilled with you in person via coffee, dinner, movie, roadtrip, travel, close friend are the ones who have the right to give you advice. Not people who dont even know you that well, for that is foolish to just give words to someone they dont know bc they havent seen it in the other’s perspective.

i broadcast a % of myself on facebook. but that doesnt mean you know who i am. if you continue to not try to understand me outside of facebook and continue to choose to view me what you think i am on social media, then you will continue to live in the absence of correct information of who i really am. that is being close minded & judgmental.

this is a very good example how to begin in understanding someone through their eyes.

 

thats the problem with people. those who care, it is so easy to give advice to people, but they fail to forget one important aspect….is to not view them in their perception, but view them in how they see it in the other person’s eyes. be understanding. then people will truly know where they are coming from.

before you make a judgement, get to know them first. the people who actually chilled with you in person via coffee, dinner, movie, roadtrip, travel, close friend are the ones who have the right to give you advice. Not people who dont even know you that well, for that is foolish to just give words to someone they dont know bc they havent seen it in the other’s perspective.

i broadcast a % of myself on facebook. but that doesnt mean you know who i am. if you continue to not try to understand me outside of facebook and continue to choose to view me what you think i am on social media, then you will continue to live in the absence of correct information of who i really am. that is being close minded & judgmental.

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