Monthly Archives: January 2014

we have a choice to not take offense

Early morning writing from morning meditation:

The reason why people get offended easily is because of our self pride.
To the people who love drama, it’s also coming from a lot of pride within.

There will always be a time where you will be misunderstood by people. In life, you will get judged, misinterpreted, assumed, accused, and misunderstood. The world is run on politics & many different perspectives here and there. There will be times where sometimes you just can’t get through to people no matter how well you explain your views, opinions, yourself….even if you show a pictograph or scientific presentations, etc. If the other person just can’t register, it’s not that they’re ignorant or arrogant, it just means that the Holy Spirit hasn’t revealed to them in that department yet. God’s working on them one step at a time, it just means that it’s not their time to comprehend with the stage of life they are in now.

There will be times where people will ask questions to lure contradiction & instigate arguments. There will be times where people will try to manipulate your points in discussion. There will be times where you have to put your foot down and stand firm in what you believe in which may cost you to stick out like the black sheep among the rest.
There will be times where people will gossip/slander about you behind your back. But it’s what you do in how you respond to that. We actually have a choice here. We can choose to respond to the pressure, offense, and take life seriously OR you can choose to not give 2cents about it and continue doing you. (Of course, with a side order of taking note of their politics into consideration of discernment, but that’s if we choose to.)

The less you worry about what others think about you, the better it is for your soul & the more you feel free. Soaring on eagle’s wings back to freedom. There’s no reason to explain yourself, if you did absolutely nothing wrong. To argue back and forth, the only reason why you care so much about trying to fix the issue through explaining to people of being misunderstood is from the sense of pride. “Arguing puts a toll on your soul.” If you look at it from a macro view, you realize this is really stupid, not loving, & immature.

The fact is, that people will not truly understand you, because we are multi-dimensional beings. We can only comprehend in a limited amount of several dimensions of a person. The only person who truly understands us wholesomely is Jesus. Although this is not to support the lone wolf life. *Community is important.

It’s a human thing to act on emotions, impulse, anger, haste, anxious. Prone to sensitivity is an animal instinct of territory, as we are also mammals too. But hey we’re more than just the flesh on our bones and our intelligent brains. We’re spiritual beings in the image of God. We’re not perfect either, but its a process!

Let go & Let God.
I realize now I would rather be misunderstood & stay happy,
than to be understood & live in tension.
Keep life simple.

political females vs godly woman

okay i know what it means when a girl stares at you with a big smile.

but i always ALWAYS encounter married women, fiances, or girls with boyfriends stare at me with big smiles.

i never understood why until now.
the reason why they do this is bc they’re extremely INSECURE.
they want to see if they’re still attractive to other men & not just their husband, boyfriend, fiance.
cuz marriage, established makes them feel succeessful but at the same time non-existence & old.

and no girl wants to feel old. so they test it out through flirting or just being wayy too friendly.

it really irritated me when they do this. but now i completely understand.
it’s not my fault that im a very handsome man, i blame my mom for my looks. and im not saying this toot my own horn, im just known to be “physically attractive” by my acting coach, or model agency.
it’s just they’re immature.

and when i took a visit down to ihopkc, there i met a female who i got to know. and it blew my mind. bc she made me realize what a true GODLY WOMAN defines.

now i know who to identify which girl is a:

POLITICAL FEMALE vs GODLY WOMAN.

see even a christian woman can also be a political female too.
I’ve met numbers of sisters who are christian but the one thing thats stopping them from committing to the Lord fully is their own political preferences.
and if you choose your own politics over God, then that reeks pride & immaturity.

now i totally know who to look for if i ever get a girlfriend. I dont wanna be with a politcal female.

I want to be with a godly woman.

this is 1 indication you can tell to distinguish the difference between the two.

being kind.
if you’re being kind to the girl for absolutely NO MOTIVE. but just because you’re a nice guy.
& by being nice guy, i mean to JUST ABSOLUTELY treat as any normal human being, even if she was a dude. like you have NO INTEREST to take her out on dates, but you just being completely real.

& if she responds to that in being completely real with you too. sINCERE.

Then she is a GODLY WOMAN.

HOWEVER, if she mistakes your kindness for hitting on/flirting, or if she’s the one who’s implying her kindness for “sending the message” to you that she’s interested in you more than a stranger.
then she is ABSOLUTELY POLITICAL.

honestly it kinda creeps me out when women hit on me if they NEVER got to know me in the first place.

another DEFINITE SIGN of POLITICAL FEMALE:
if she always sets rules or guideline policies or borderlines around her dating preference perimeter. like she will only go out with this man if he is this and that.
hey that’s being political!

cuz i used to be just like that too. but u know what i realized.
none of that adjectives matter, politics are temporary, they can be your beliefs one day, and out with the wind the next. politics sway like flags. what stays is the foundation. and that foundation is in God. politics is navigated by one’s own appeal. but would you really wanna be with a woman who’s marketed by her own principals? or would you wanna be with a woman who’s destined in God’s grounds?

the type of girl i wanna marry?
SHE HAS TO HAVE A HEART FOR MISSIONS!

you see there’s actually a different type of believers:
Secular christians, political christians, & godly women.

secular christians: people who are saved, but prioritize by the secular culture.
political christians: christians who stick to their political preference first priority.
godly women: believers who put their priority to have a heart after God.

i realize now that kindness within the secular society is conceptually known for either to get something in return whether it be in the job industry or professionalism networking, weakness, or flirting/hitting on/sending the “message” to the opposite sex.
& that’s what i started to notice and identify. and now it makes complete sense to me why whenever i approached somebody in kindness it was always cautioned for hidden agenda, and it’s especially analyzed within a business environment such as the east coast or west coast.
But if it’s in a different area like the south or the north, or the midwest, it’s completely different. Kindness is known for just being SINCERE & HONEST & REAL with each other. THATS IT!

you see, women who are without God as their ultimate guide or approach christianity in a legalistic fashion is prone to selfishness, pride, childish.

when i was little, adults were mature.
now im an adult, and all the adults i know are acting like teenagers. profanity leaving the mouths, having no class, so arrogant, ……so immature. i think we’re supposed to be adults here.

Identifying your walk; defining Christianity

Im not going to use facebook for preaching anymore.
I realized I have no validation to preach, only unless I’m a pastor or if I’m called to speak/ give a teaching.
The only thing I am to do is to stay quiet. I realize this will help me know true humility, discernment, help mature my walk, & wisdom.
#humbleservant
the TRUE definition of what REAL christianity is.
To have a relationship with Jesus.
that’s as simple as it can get!
christianity isnt about voicing your opinions based on how much knowledge you know.
yes the bible is filled with knowledge, but the bible is meant to be used to manipulate to others in order to prove points. or else that’s promoting a wolf in sheep’s clothing.

if a christian is approaching christianity in that way, that just shows you that this believer is a lamb. he has lots to learn, more to grow, still very immature, insecure, and too proud.
He voices out his opinions without self discernment attained from the Lord Jesus Christ, but only meditated on knowledge, his own wisdom, his own intuition, and the bible. This is promoting status & power authority. the man loves to voice out his opinions bc he is insecure and always wants to seek approval of others in appreciating his mind and knowledge.

If your using christianity to find a status, in power, or knowledge, or how intellectual you can be through using the bible as your manipulative resource material.
Then you’re not living up to what it means to be a christian.
To be a christian is not about how much you know, its not about power, or status. You cant use christianity to gravitate power under you. All the power is given to God, all glory for Him only and absolutely.
+the journey of a christian walk is best defined as maturing yourself in Christ.
+there are stages in assessing the christian path. stage 1: the lamb, stage 2: the hogget, stage 3: the sheep, stage 4: the teacher, stage 5: the missionary, etc.
+not submitting to authority is not being rebellious, its being immature.
+its who you surround yourself with, how you present yourself, what you do in your free time, and what keeps you busy that defines you and identifies where you’re at in life.
+to reach destiny, be the new changed man u want to be, you gotta consider who you associate with. your clique influences you.
+”your ego is not your amigo”.
+the real reason why many adults put down people, bully, immature. its bc of pride & too consumed by fleshly desires without cognizance.
+tough love is the wrong form of discipline. you love in kindness & gentleness but not police.
+christianity is as simple as it gets: to have a relationship with Jesus.
its not about for your glory, all the glory is to God. its not religion. its freedom to be yourself without conformity or system. you especially dont use the bible to manipulate others to gear for your own status, you use the bible to discern your path. thats old testament. this is new testament now.
+if you really wanna change, then you gotta sacrifice all the things that u know will keep you from reaching that “future you”.
+being anxious is a sub trait from pride.
+the reason why there are many believers who hasnt changed drastically, than the ones who have is bc those who have put their pride to the side and submitted to disciplining to the word & jesus. social media has become a distraction. i wonder what it would be like if we actually read the bible as our only book? i know too many believers who hasnt even finished the bible but read tons of books, and they still are the same just more knowledgeable. and yet i know very little believers who didnt read books but reads the bible from front to back and they went from drug dealers to married pastors with children.
it’s our pride that stops us from submitting to discipline.

How to Overcome the World

This is how we know that we love the children of God: by loving God and carrying out his commands. In fact, this is love for God: to keep his commands. And his commands are not burdensome, for everyone born of God overcomes the world. This is the victory that has overcome the world, even our faith. Who is it that overcomes the world? Only the one who believes that Jesus is the Son of God. (1 John 5:2-5 NIV)